Lost In Lockdown Again? How To Keep On Supporting Children With Additional Needs.

We’re back in lockdown again, schools are closed to most children again, many families of children and young people with additional needs are struggling again. It’s like we’re in a recurring lockdown ‘Groundhog Day’, but there are things that families as well as churches can do to help everyone to be able to cope better, to make this lockdown a little more manageable. Here are my tips to help us all survive another lockdown:

Families

Try to create a routine, a ‘new normal’, and stick to it as much as possible. Many children with additional needs can struggle with unpredictability and uncertainty, so try to keep a rhythm each day that they can get used to. Encourage them to help you to create this.

Use a visual timetable to help them to know what is happening each day. This could use symbols, if they use these to help with communication, or photos of the different activities, key moments  etc. Knowing what is happening now and next is really important. Here’s some symbols put together by NHS Forth Valley Speech And Language Therapy (SALT) Team:

Do they have a ‘safe space’ if they are feeling overwhelmed? A place they can use to calm and de-stress or re-set? Maybe make a ‘den’ together that they can use for this, with some blankets over a table and some soft cushions inside.

Help them to be able to communicate how they are feeling. It may be through speech, but could also be through writing or drawing something; whatever works for them. Reassure them that you are there for them and however they are feeling you’ll work through it together.

If they have questions about the virus, look for resources to help them understand it better and to know how to stay safe. There are resources in the COVID-19 category of my blog site; click here: ‘coronavirus‘ to find the resources I shared in the first lockdown, which are just as relevant today.

If you are struggling in your faith at this time, maybe are even angry with God, know that that is OK and that you are in good company. David got angry and impatient with God when things were not going well, see Psalms 13, 35 and 42 as examples, but they all end with him praising God. It is important that we bring the tough stuff to God, he wants to hear that from us, but also that we still praise him, learning to dance in the rain.

Look for the positives. A study of the people of Tromsø in Norway found that despite them living in darkness for months at a time during winter, their mental health was excellent because they had learned to focus on the positive things that they could do while it was dark, like cozying up around a warm fire with some cocoa, looking at the night sky, or putting some candles or pretty lights on, rather than the things that they couldn’t do. There’s a practical and spiritual lesson for us in that right there. The Danish and Norwegians call that sense of coziness Hygge (Hue-Guh) and it’s related to the English word ‘hug’. We could all do with giving ourselves a cozy hug at the moment couldn’t we?

© The New Yorker

Have a look at ‘One Thousand Gifts’ by Ann Voskamp – spend a few moments each day thinking of three things that have gone well, three things to give thanks for, and write them down in a journal. The day might have been a disaster, but if just for a few moments we can think of those three things and be grateful to God for them it can change our mindset and help us to look for these positive moments every day, as well as giving us a resource of good memories to tap into. If you can manage to do this for a year you end up with one thousand positive moments or ‘gifts’.

‘One Thousand Gifts’ by Ann Voskamp

Churches

Make real contact; not just an email or pointing to a Facebook page, but a check-in phone call. Ask how families are doing and be willing to listen to what they say.

What practical help can be provided? Are they shielding? Do they need shopping done for them, or prescriptions collected? Would a hot meal left on the doorstep be appreciated? Would a spare laptop be useful for online school? What other support do they need that can be practically provided by our church community during lockdown?

Make sure you have a list of Christian support agencies that you can connect families with where needed, e.g. CAP (Christians Against Poverty), Care for the Family, food banks etc.

Involve families if you’re doing online church, create opportunities for them to participate, don’t leave them out. This is a great opportunity to practice inclusion and belonging for all!

And a final word from a mum of a child with additional needs:

“Notice us. We will always cope and be ‘OK’ because we don’t have any other choice. See beyond the bravado and offer us something to make sure we know you’re taking us with you. It could be as simple as noticing that someone isn’t at church (online or in-building) and calling them to check that everything is OK? If things are tough for us, drop your sermon notes round with a cappuccino sachet and a cake so that we can ‘take five’ and do church together. Mostly though, just notice us.”

Let’s all get through this lockdown well together!

Blessings,

Mark

See also:
Lost In Lockdown: Left Behind
https://theadditionalneedsblogfather.com/2020/09/21/lost-in-lockdown/

Beyond Zoom: Supporting Additional Needs Families
https://theadditionalneedsblogfather.com/2020/09/17/beyond-zoom/

Coronavirus – Helping Children To Stay Safe
https://theadditionalneedsblogfather.com/2020/03/11/coronavirus/

Header image © Nursery World

5 thoughts on “Lost In Lockdown Again? How To Keep On Supporting Children With Additional Needs.

  1. What are some safe space ideas for right after we are done with school. By then she’s coming off her medicine and she is super stressed. She hides with her iPad but I wish that shows weren’t her only way to chill. We call it “chill time”.

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    1. Coming home from school can be a stressful time as some children have ‘held it all together’ all day at school and are ready to ‘let it all go’ when they get home. Some private quiet time with an iPad could be just the thing she needs to calm. Not sure how old she is but maybe some stress/fiddle/fidget toys might help. Cuddling up in a weighted blanket can sometimes work too. But let her guide you too, see if she has any ideas (not when she’s just got home from school, but during a calmer time).

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